Blended Family Estate Planning by Kimberly Arnett, CFP®

If you’re in a blended family, you’re already aware of the emotional and financial issues involved in your daily life. But what about the future? When it’s time to do your estate planning — and it’s never too soon for that — you’ll need to be aware of the entanglements and complexities that can get in the way of your vision for leaving the legacy you desire.

You can take comfort in knowing that you’re far from alone. More than half of married or cohabiting couples with at least one living parent, or parent-in-law, and at least one adult child, have a “step-kin” relationship, according to a study from researchers at the University of Massachusetts and other schools. That’s a lot of estate planning issues.

Nonetheless, the task does not have to be overwhelming as long as you put sufficient time and thought into it. Here are some ideas that may help.

Be Fair and Flexible With Your Estate

Even in a non-blended family, it’s not always easy to be as equitable as you’d like in your estate plans. Too often, someone feels they have been treated unfairly. In a blended family, these problems can be exacerbated: will biological children feel cheated? Will stepchildren? Keep this in mind: Fair is not always equal — and equal is not always fair.

Evaluate Family Needs

When deciding how to divide your assets, you’ll need to make some judgment calls after carefully evaluating the needs of all your family members. There’s no guarantee that everyone will be satisfied, but you’ll have done your best.

Communicate Your Wishes Clearly

When it comes to estate planning, the best surprise is no surprise — and that’s especially true in a blended family. Even if you’re the one creating your estate plans, try to involve other family members and make your wishes and goals clear. You don’t have to be specific down to the last dollar, but you should provide a pretty good overall outline.

Consider Establishing a Revocable Living Trust

Everyone’s situation is different, but many blended families find that, when making estate plans, a simple will is not enough. Consequently, you may want to establish a revocable living trust, which gives you much more control than a will regarding carrying out your wishes. Plus, because you have transferred your assets to the trust, you are no longer technically the owner of these assets, so there’s no reason for a court to get involved, which means your estate can likely avoid the time-consuming, expensive, and very public process of probate.

Choose the Right Trustee

If you do set up a living trust, you’ll also need to name a trustee — someone who manages the assets in the trust. Married couples often serve as co-trustees, but this can result in tensions and disagreements. As an alternative, you can hire a professional trustee — someone with the time, experience, and neutrality to make appropriate decisions and who can bring new ideas to the process.

Have an Estate Planning Team

Above all else, make sure you have the right estate planning team in place. You’ll certainly need to work with an attorney, and you may also want to bring in your tax advisor and financial professional. Estate planning can be complex — especially with a blended family — and you’ll want to make the correct moves, right from the start.

This article was provided by Kimberly Arnett, CFP® Kimberly Arnett, your local Edward Jones Financial Advisor. For more information about her or this article, please contact Kimberly at (586)-726-4347 or on Facebook.

Edward Jones, Member SIPC. Edward Jones, its employees, and financial advisors are not estate planners and cannot provide tax or legal advice. Please consult your real estate planning attorney.



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